My father died during COVID. Here’s what has helped the healing.
I lost my Dad one year ago today. And, if I’m honest, I’m sadder today than I was then.
Category: Healing
Don’t forget that life can be simple.
I think the pandemic has slowed us all down. Often, annoyingly so. But it’s also revealed a really hard truth that many of us ignored for a long time: Life can be simple…and still be good.
This Thanksgiving, don’t let the good stuff go unsaid.
This Thanksgiving, don’t let the good stuff go unsaid.
Learning to cope and continue when life challenges
“Am I okay?” I think it’s the most important question we’re forgetting to ask ourselves.
From Pain to Peace: How to Endure the Worst of Life
A few years ago, I endured three of the greatest pain points life has to offer: My father was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. My husband filed for divorce. And I discovered a Big Lie that ripped apart everything I thought I knew.
We can’t hide from the hurt and expect to heal
We all have a go-to method of hiding pain. Maybe it’s food. Maybe it’s alcohol. Maybe it’s really good acting. But we do it. And it’s not to hide from the world around us. It’s to hide the hurt from ourselves.
Micro-grieving: When the smallest losses threaten our peace
My father died on a Friday afternoon in late March at the very beginning of the COVID crisis. Letting go and healing in months of isolation is what I would describe as macro-grieving.
There is no finish line in healing
We do this thing: We get really frustrated with ourselves. We thought we were past the pain. We thought we had transcended all the troubles. But we haven’t healed. We’re still healing.
Forgive yourself for the things you did to survive
I think shame is the worst of all enemies. It doesn’t matter what we did. And it doesn’t matter why we did it. Shame enters our heart and is nearly impossible to shake.
How to recover from life’s greatest losses
I once attended a workshop called “How to Make Your Comeback”. And, frankly, it was terrible.